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These Pages

All of these historical pages are available to all who wish to read them. 

Many of these pages refer to my own Quest.  It was this site, these pages and Efficient Love - The Good-Man Methodology that helped me find my own, perfect for me, Heroine.  My Quest has been totally, successfully accomplished - and Janet and I are sharing a glorious path of our own Happily Here & Now on our way to our shared version of Happily Ever After.

Although my Quest was wonderfully successful and is now over, I have left many of these pages that refer to my own search unchanged so that readers can better understand how I used The Method.  Hence, many pages purposely have not been updated to show my success!

My most sincere hope is that this old site will help give you insights on how best to EFFICIENTLY  find your own Hero or Heroine!

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Paths & Trails

Autumn leaves are absolutely best savored in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park -- especially when either climbing quiet, placid mountain trails beside gurgling streams to reach gushing waterfalls or majestic peaks -- or driving back park lanes at slow speeds with the top down on the convertible...but what would make both so absolutely perfect -- would be if you are fortunate enough to have THE most special, highly energetic, amazingly adventurous and totally adorable companion beside you the entire time! Click for more about these pictures.  Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships

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Autumn leaves are absolutely best savored in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park -- especially when either climbing quiet, placid mountain trails beside gurgling streams to reach gushing waterfalls or majestic peaks -- or driving back park lanes at slow speeds with the top down on the convertible...but what would make both so absolutely perfect -- would be if you are fortunate enough to have THE most special, highly energetic, amazingly adventurous and totally adorable companion beside you the entire time! Click for more about these pictures.  Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships.

The Main Paths

Below are the three main paths through my Domain. 

You can always look here on all the pages to change to another main path at any time.

Your Quest

Click on the path below to find ways for you to better define the Hero or Heroine you seek.

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Writings

Click on the path below if you would like to read my fiction and non-fiction. 

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My Quest

Click on the path below if you want to learn all about me and see my own wish lists for the Heroine I seek for me.

Caution:  this is a long and hard trail intended only for those few brave souls who might, just maybe, be my Heroine.

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What's New

Very Major Update:

VERY HAPPILY MARRIED
Details by clicking Heroine Found.

New Page:  Dear Dashing are periodic answers to emails I receive about how to better apply The Good-Man Methodology to the reader's own relationship issues. 

New Page:  Relationship Foreplay which will give you 5 dates of info on a prospective lover in only 5 minutes!

New page just added to share some of the the spectacular, mesmerizing, kaleidoscopic sunsets that slowly parade out at sea each evening off my balcony.  Click the picture to see some of the whispering quiet reminders of the power of God.

 Click for sunsets galore

New pages just added for those who want Instant Chemistry first and for those who think I have too much Time on My Hands!

New page:  Strictly for friends and family on my recent relocation  to a new paradise.  Email me for the map to this hidden trail.

The view from my balcony that we might share on part of our first date...Click for BIG picture!  Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships    

Also, a new page,  Soulmate Math on how each picky trait you want impacts your number of possible Heroes or Heroines.

Also, several new Dragon pages have just been added.  The first 8 of them have been so popular, I've added ten more Sneaky Relationship Dragons to the list.

General Updates Continue

This Domain is undergoing it first major renovation in four years.  Some main trails and side paths are undergoing brand new construction while others are simple cosmetic repairs.  Those paths undergoing major new construction may still be temporarily closed.

This Domain started, once upon a time, as a single page and a single picture with my own Quest as its sole goal.  The site has grown haphazardly to over 350 separate web pages and some readers are getting lost in the bushes. 

These new pages will have much better navigation with much better organization of thought and purpose - with it primary goal of helping others find their own Hero or Heroine.

Please stay tuned and. as always, comments and suggestion are welcome.  Also, please let me know of broken links, typos, inconsistent formatting or anything that seems confusing.


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Five Years from Today - Your Plan

Five Years from Today WILL Happen.  No Matter What You Do -- Or Don't Do.

Think about you and what you REALLY want. How do you want your Hero or Heroine to participate and share in your day in day out life? Does your Soulmate Applicant envision the same lifestyle and goals that you do? If they don't, and there are major differences of opinion between you, then it can be a ticking time bomb that might destroy the relationship.If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting!

I'd like to share with you a valuable thought process* that is part of The Good-Man Methodology that might give you some critical insights into your personal future. The questions are very simple. It's the answers that will affect the rest of your life. Answers that will also help you have a meaningful dialog with your Hero or Heroine to help ensure you are both heading down the same path to happily ever after.

Try to realistically project, in writing, as much detail as possible for a typical day in your life five years from today. Picture a typical day -- the way you really want it. The more details you can include, the better the image will be of what you really want to work toward. And have your Soulmate Applicant do the same -- independently -- to make sure that both visions are unshaded and true.

I'm not talking about fantasy. But I'm also not talking about a simple extension of what your life is now. Instead, do a zero-based projection -- starting from scratch -- that would be realistic for you. With your real preferences as the important parts of a typical day in your life.

Questions AND Answers

Just as a guide, let me suggest a few questions that might stimulate others that are even more applicable for you:

What time will you wake up? Who do you wake up next to? What is your morning ritual? Does it include sex every morning? If not, how often?

How many children and/or animals are still waking up in the same home? Any new-borns? Any coming in the following five years?

What kind of home? Where is the home located? In the country, in the city or in the suburbs? What city is closest? How big is your home? What does it look like? What kind of view do you see out the windows? Or, will you live in a tent and play & frolic naked on the beach every day?

What time do you leave for the office? Or, will you be retired and/or independently wealthy? Or, be a kept man/woman? Or, taking care of small children? Or, will you just go into your office at the house and telecommute?

What kind of car will you drive to work? How far do you drive? How long does it take? Or, will you be taking some kind of public transit? How much traveling will you be doing for business? To where? How many days a month will you be gone?

What kind of office do you have? What does it look like? What part of town is it in? What town? What do you see out the windows? What business are you in, then? Will it be the same as it is today?

What will be the parts of the job that will give you the most pleasure? What parts will be your biggest hassles? How many hours a day, a week, will you typically be working? How will you spend lunch time?

What will be your personal financial situation in five years? Your take home pay? Your personal net worth? What level of debt will you have? What major expenses will you be facing? Will you have children in college or be supporting your parents? How much will you have saved for retirement? What financial protection will you have in case of catastrophe? What investments will you have made?

How do the career goals of your Hero or Heroine dove-tail with your own goals? Are there major conflicts on goals, focus, time or timetables?

What time will you leave the office? Where do you go when you leave? What time do you get home? Who will be there when you get home? What will you do for dinner? How will you spend the week night evenings? What civic, church, children or other activities will you be involved with? What hobbies or past times will occupy some of your time? How much TV will you watch? What kind of music will you be listening to? How much time will you spend on the computer? What household chores will you be responsible for?

How much quality family time will be shared? How much intimate, one-on-one quality time will you and your lover share each day or night? What time will you go to bed? Will you make love every night? If not, how often?

All of these are just the day in, day out, routines of life -- the DIDO. Add to these: how do you spend your weekends? Your vacations? How often will you take off from work for long weekends? To take a real vacation? What special events will happen in all those weeks that make up your life for the next five years?

What will be the routine of your life? The punctuation marks? What other things will be important to you, to your lifestyle, five years from now? What will be your health, your weight, your sex drive?

Will you finally have your Soulmate as part of your life, day in and day out?

What changes should you make now to have life the way you want it then? Can you get where you want to be faster than five years? If you want something different than you have right now, will your needs in a Hero or Heroine change also?

There are, of course, no wrong answers to any of these questions. Just different answers. But, short of catastrophe, five years from now WILL happen. And you get to choose the direction and the destination you want. The journey has already started.

Figure out where you are right now. Then, decide what you have to do, what you have to change, to end up at the destination you really want. With the Soulmate who wants the same things.

Remember, if you want to end up someplace West,
Does it make sense for you to keep heading East?

 

 

 

Excerpt from "The Good-Man Methodology for Efficient Love." Copyright © 2003-2006 Robert Goodman..  
All rights reserved.  Used by expressed, written permission of author. 

 

 

 

The Book

If you're enjoying your visit here to my Domain, you can help support, sponsor and maintain all of these many paths and trails with your purchase of the JUST released THIRD edition of Efficient Love.

The just-released 184 page paperback edition is now available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble and most bookstores for only $19.97! 

Get your own Efficient Love today!

 

If it's not in stock at your local bookstore,  just have them special order it for you. Tell them it's ISBN # 978-0-9792952-0-1

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Efficient Love?

The concept of Efficient Love is not the oxymora it first appears. 

Doesn't it  make incredible sense to invest a few hours to FULLY define ALL of your wants, wishes and needs that would describe your ideal lover?   

By efficiently identifying the general traits, characteristics, sexual issues and day-in day-out needs you find important, you can very quickly recognize if a prospective lover is a genuine long-term match BEFORE the chemistry takes over and leads you into yet another dead-end relationship and through another Cycle of the Nine Stages of Love.

Do you really want to watch the sun set on yet another day without sharing YOUR path of Happily Here & Now with someone who wants YOUR same Happily Ever After?

Doesn't it make more sense for you to find YOUR ideal Hero or Heroine as quickly and efficiently as possible? Wouldn't you rather share as many glorious days and nights of wonderful inefficiencies possible with your ideal lover, as quickly as possible?

Don't waste another sunset.

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Improve Your Dating, Love, Relationships for Happily Ever After Love

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Improve Your Dating, Love, Relationships for Happily Ever After Love

Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance are all important concepts to avoid loneliness,being lonely and divorce.
Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance 

What method do you use in your life for dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance? 

Do you seek Happily Ever After in a relationship?

 

Improve Your Dating, Love, Relationships for Happily Ever After Love

Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance are all important concepts to avoid loneliness, being lonely and divorce.
Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance 

What method do you use in your life for dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance? 

Do you seek Happily Ever After in a relationship?