Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships

 

These Pages

All of these historical pages are available to all who wish to read them. 

Many of these pages refer to my own Quest.  It was this site, these pages and Efficient Love - The Good-Man Methodology that helped me find my own, perfect for me, Heroine.  My Quest has been totally, successfully accomplished - and Janet and I are sharing a glorious path of our own Happily Here & Now on our way to our shared version of Happily Ever After.

Although my Quest was wonderfully successful and is now over, I have left many of these pages that refer to my own search unchanged so that readers can better understand how I used The Method.  Hence, many pages purposely have not been updated to show my success!

My most sincere hope is that this old site will help give you insights on how best to EFFICIENTLY  find your own Hero or Heroine!

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To find out more, also check out www.EfficientLove.com for updates.

Paths & Trails

Autumn leaves are absolutely best savored in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park -- especially when either climbing quiet, placid mountain trails beside gurgling streams to reach gushing waterfalls or majestic peaks -- or driving back park lanes at slow speeds with the top down on the convertible...but what would make both so absolutely perfect -- would be if you are fortunate enough to have THE most special, highly energetic, amazingly adventurous and totally adorable companion beside you the entire time! Click for more about these pictures.  Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships

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Autumn leaves are absolutely best savored in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park -- especially when either climbing quiet, placid mountain trails beside gurgling streams to reach gushing waterfalls or majestic peaks -- or driving back park lanes at slow speeds with the top down on the convertible...but what would make both so absolutely perfect -- would be if you are fortunate enough to have THE most special, highly energetic, amazingly adventurous and totally adorable companion beside you the entire time! Click for more about these pictures.  Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships.

The Main Paths

Below are the three main paths through my Domain. 

You can always look here on all the pages to change to another main path at any time.

Your Quest

Click on the path below to find ways for you to better define the Hero or Heroine you seek.

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Writings

Click on the path below if you would like to read my fiction and non-fiction. 

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My Quest

Click on the path below if you want to learn all about me and see my own wish lists for the Heroine I seek for me.

Caution:  this is a long and hard trail intended only for those few brave souls who might, just maybe, be my Heroine.

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What's New

Very Major Update:

VERY HAPPILY MARRIED
Details by clicking Heroine Found.

New Page:  Dear Dashing are periodic answers to emails I receive about how to better apply The Good-Man Methodology to the reader's own relationship issues. 

New Page:  Relationship Foreplay which will give you 5 dates of info on a prospective lover in only 5 minutes!

New page just added to share some of the the spectacular, mesmerizing, kaleidoscopic sunsets that slowly parade out at sea each evening off my balcony.  Click the picture to see some of the whispering quiet reminders of the power of God.

 Click for sunsets galore

New pages just added for those who want Instant Chemistry first and for those who think I have too much Time on My Hands!

New page:  Strictly for friends and family on my recent relocation  to a new paradise.  Email me for the map to this hidden trail.

The view from my balcony that we might share on part of our first date...Click for BIG picture!  Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships    

Also, a new page,  Soulmate Math on how each picky trait you want impacts your number of possible Heroes or Heroines.

Also, several new Dragon pages have just been added.  The first 8 of them have been so popular, I've added ten more Sneaky Relationship Dragons to the list.

General Updates Continue

This Domain is undergoing it first major renovation in four years.  Some main trails and side paths are undergoing brand new construction while others are simple cosmetic repairs.  Those paths undergoing major new construction may still be temporarily closed.

This Domain started, once upon a time, as a single page and a single picture with my own Quest as its sole goal.  The site has grown haphazardly to over 350 separate web pages and some readers are getting lost in the bushes. 

These new pages will have much better navigation with much better organization of thought and purpose - with it primary goal of helping others find their own Hero or Heroine.

Please stay tuned and. as always, comments and suggestion are welcome.  Also, please let me know of broken links, typos, inconsistent formatting or anything that seems confusing.


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Dear Dashing

With 30,000 to 40,000 visitors a month to this Domain, I get large volumes of emails each month.  Many are kudos and thanks, some are complaints, some are questions. 

Most of the questions I receive are about how to better apply The Good-Man Methodology to the reader's own relationship issues.  This page, updated periodically, is focused on trying to answer a few of those questions.

This Week's Letter

Dear Dashing,

I am a frequent visitor of your web site. I have met a man, and we have been seeing each other for 20 months now.  I have 2 daughters 16 and 19 he has 1 daughter 13...I have more freedom than him, because of the ages of our children. I would like more quality time with him to develop a deeper relationship. We are committed to each other and still maintain our own separate homes. We spend weekends together and one night during the week, and have recently spoken of living together maybe 6 months down the road.

The advise I am seeking is this:  How do you define quality time?

How many hours are reasonable a week? Is there a general guideline one should strive for?
This is my biggest dragon which I am having a problem dealing with, he is happy to have our quality times between the hours of 11 PM and 2 AM, after his daughter is tucked away, but often our quality time is becoming less quality, as I find I am getting a bit cranky and somewhat resentful of the hours we are keeping. While I realize your writings make you think for your self, I am having a problem trying to define and explain to my partner the quality time is becoming not so quality now without sounding like I am nagging.

Any comment is appreciated or maybe I have missed something in your writings about quality time.

LC

This Week's Answer

Dear LC,

Quality time is in the eyes, and on the clocks, of the beholder. It is also one of the more difficult issues that needs to be resolved between partners in a relationship. Like most things, the closer two people are on this, and virtually everything else on the Profound, Profane and DIDO Lists, the easier it is to resolve any differences.

That having been said, let's deal with your specific issue. This is, of course, just one of a multitude of issues with the Kiddo Dragon that I write about. The first question for you is what kind of quality time are you describing? One on one time private together?....or one on one intimate, private time together? If it is the former, you might look at setting an hour of uninterruptible time together even while his daughter is still up. If it is intimate time, then the question becomes: does it have to start at HER bedtime?

The next question is size - and if size matters: how much quality time would you like to have each night? How much does your partner want? If you want three hours each and every night...and he wants 20 minutes...or vice versa...then, that is the first thing to resolve and make sure is not irreconcilable.

As an example from my own history, I was in a long term relationship with someone who had a 13 year old daughter also. We started out about like you have...but she had to be at work at 8:30 AM and required 8 hours sleep. Lack of sleep started having a LOT of impact so we knew we had to come up with a better resolution.

Our solution and mutual agreement was for 2 hours every night...starting at 9:30 PM. After 9:30 was our time and the daughter and the phone and the rest of the World were simply not allowed to interfere for anything less than nuclear war. For us, this was a mutual decision, satisfied both of our individual needs for quality time, was enforced and reinforced with the daughter (after the first few nights of interference) and resolved the issue. Naturally, there were and always will be times when other things do, rightfully, become a higher priority. However, we were successful with this approach over 90% of the time.

You might suggest something similar to your lover. Just be prepared for him to say something similar to another past lover of mine: "Two hours? Every night? Are you crazy? I don't have time in my life for that much time for anything!" In my case, that relationship did NOT last very long! In her case, it was a huge incompatibility that was irreconcilable. Hopefully, that will not be the case with your own lover.

Just be completely candid as to how important this issue is to you...and don't have the conversation about this during your 11PM to 2 AM time slot!

Dashing

Disclaimer

Due to the sheer volume of emails, I simply don't have the time to answer very many of them.  Those I do answer, I will try to choose ones that I believe will be most helpful to my visitors and Dashing Members.  I reserve the right to edit for clarity and content and while I will try and give you my best advice, it is just that:  advice.  You are solely responsible for your own judgment and your own actions and any consequences of those actions.

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Within those guidelines, you are invited to email your own questions about how best to use The Good-Man Methodology to enhance your own current relationship...or to help you find your own Happily Here & Now path to Happily Ever After.

 

 

The Book

If you're enjoying your visit here to my Domain, you can help support, sponsor and maintain all of these many paths and trails with your purchase of the JUST released THIRD edition of Efficient Love.

The just-released 184 page paperback edition is now available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble and most bookstores for only $19.97! 

Get your own Efficient Love today!

 

If it's not in stock at your local bookstore,  just have them special order it for you. Tell them it's ISBN # 978-0-9792952-0-1

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"I am a frequent visitor of your web site. I have met a man, and we have been seeing each other for 20 months now, I have 2 daughters 16 and 19 he has 1 daughter 13...I have more freedom than him, because of the ages of our children. I would like more quality time with him to develop a deeper relationship. We are committed to each other and"...Click for More


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Efficient Love?

The concept of Efficient Love is not the oxymora it first appears. 

Doesn't it  make incredible sense to invest a few hours to FULLY define ALL of your wants, wishes and needs that would describe your ideal lover?   

By efficiently identifying the general traits, characteristics, sexual issues and day-in day-out needs you find important, you can very quickly recognize if a prospective lover is a genuine long-term match BEFORE the chemistry takes over and leads you into yet another dead-end relationship and through another Cycle of the Nine Stages of Love.

Do you really want to watch the sun set on yet another day without sharing YOUR path of Happily Here & Now with someone who wants YOUR same Happily Ever After?

Doesn't it make more sense for you to find YOUR ideal Hero or Heroine as quickly and efficiently as possible? Wouldn't you rather share as many glorious days and nights of wonderful inefficiencies possible with your ideal lover, as quickly as possible?

Don't waste another sunset.

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Improve Your Dating, Love, Relationships for Happily Ever After Love

Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance are all important concepts to avoid loneliness,being lonely and divorce.
Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance 

What method do you use in your life for dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance? 

Do you seek Happily Ever After in a relationship?

 

Improve Your Dating, Love, Relationships for Happily Ever After Love

Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance are all important concepts to avoid loneliness, being lonely and divorce.
Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance 

What method do you use in your life for dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance? 

Do you seek Happily Ever After in a relationship?